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Early Warning Signs

Jun 26th, 2009 In: Resources By: admin Comments 1

EXTREME JEALOUSY

Everyone gets jealous sometimes; the key word is “extreme.” Both males and females can become extremely jealous. Signs of extreme jealousy are when your partner gets mad when you talk to other people, have close friends, or express warm feelings for anyone else. The jealous person may withdraw, sulk, or become angry and abusive.

POSSESSIVENESS

This becomes a dangerous sign when someone treats you as if you are an object they own. The possessive person will not want you to share your time or give any attention to anyone else.

CONTROLLING ATTITUDE

A controlling attitude is when one partner makes all the decisions for the other. Your views, desires, thoughts and needs are not important or considered “stupid” or “dumb.” Often the controlling partner tries to tell the other how to dress, who to talk to, and where to go.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM

People with low self-esteem don’t care about themselves to know that they deserve better.

UNPREDICTABLE MOOD SWINGS

Nobody stays in the same mood all the time, but a dramatic shift from emotion to emotion, jealousy to anger, to being sweet and charming is a dangerous sign.

ALCOHOL AND DRUG USE

Many of the reported violent episodes in relationships are carried out when one or both partners have been drinking or doing drugs. Alcohol and drugs do lower a person’s self-control, but are not direct causes of violence.

EXPLOSIVE ANGER

Be careful of people who seem to get very angry over small things. These people may hit walls, yell, call names or actually threaten others with violence.